A Warning Label For Being In Love

Love is work but its not a job

Love without a doubt takes a great deal time and work to sustain, but it should never feel like a job that makes you bend over backwards for. Love should be a deep feeling for another, unconditional and authentic in every way.

A relationship is a lot like building a fire...first you need to gather all the materials (Patience,Trust,Vulnerability, oh and wood! things like that) and then you have to build them up in the most efficient way possible to get this fire going, once that's completed all that's left is that one *spark* to get the fire going But remember what keeps a fire going and going? You must continue to pour more materials into it to keep it alive and like love if you stop feeding the flame of your relationship it will simply go out.

Of course being in love is not easy nothing in this life is, even love must be worked at on a daily basis, a work in progress so to speak. Don't give up on it and it won't give up on you. simple as that....better yet no its not simple, not at all. Love can be hard.

The thing is change is inevitable in relationships and you know what that means, LEARN TO ADAPT hone this skill because it will serve you well forever. When two people come together over time one of them is bound to change, and being able to roll with the punches if such a shift should occur is never going to be a bad thing. Adapt adapt adapt! Love is a willingness to adapt

Words can either be used to mend a person or harm them. Any true relationship relies on honest communication between two people who intend to love each other forever, and as such the words you speak can either bring two people closer or drive a wedge which will ultimately lead to a bad outcome, so be wise with your words because Love is indeed communication.

Compromise is essential in any relationship that plans on making it into old age. Overtime most couples will start to realize that certain differences start to creep up and some type of sacrifice will need to be made to keep the peace, but these sacrifices should be small in comparison to the love you have for you partner as such you should never let any compromise become a strain on the relationship under any circumstance (never settle for less, settle for mutual happiness), meet one another in the middle while considering each others personal needs to keep both parties happy... Love is compromise.

Relationships are all about harmony and as such only when both people are *happy* can it finally be somewhat harmonious, and even though disagreements will still pop up from time to time it will be easier for the relationship to weather them and find a peaceful resolution. If one side of the equation is feeling less than content with how things are going the balance is beginning to shift in the wrong direction. It takes two happy people to forge a happy relationship. Love is harmony.

All great relationships will require a good amount of intimacy and any relationship without some type of intimacy is most likely doomed to fail, a nice mix of physical and emotional intimacy will keep you and your partner happy, but you must be willing to learn from one another while peering into who your partner really is deep down accepting each others faults and growing stronger in love because of said acceptance. Understand that Love is intimacy.
                        

Every relationship has Its fair share of ups and downs right?  

Any good relationship has its fair share of ups and downs. But when those very scales start to tip toward the downs way more often than not and everything becomes a reason to dip into the pool of negativity the emotional burden set upon the back of the relationship may just be too much for it to bear. Constant negativity will cause any partnership to erode overtime. Now while no real relationship is perfect....nobody should have to put up with constant negativity and if it cannot be fixed with communication then it may be time to cut the cord and save yourself. 

As a couple, progressing in a direction both parties can agree on is a necessity to any healthy relationship. It serves no purpose for a couple to come together only to veer in two different directions, as it will most likely end up hindering the relationship further down the line. So if you cannot progress with them it might be for the best that you find someone who is going the same way as you, relationships always work better when synergy takes place of chaos.

Love is work but its not a job

Love without a doubt takes a great deal time and work to sustain, but it should never feel like a job that makes you bend over backwards for. Love should be a deep feeling for another, unconditional and authentic in every way.

A relationship is a lot like building a fire...first you need to gather all the materials (Patience,Trust,Vulnerability, oh and wood! things like that) and then you have to build them up in the most efficient way possible to get this fire going, once that's completed all that's left is that one *spark* to get the fire going But remember what keeps a fire going and going? You must continue to pour more materials into it to keep it alive and like love if you stop feeding the flame of your relationship it will simply go out.

A healthy relationship has no need for petty games, as such never make him/her feel disrespected, unimportant, or controlled. Instead make her/him feel loved, important and needed in the relationship, show the one you love what REAL trust and communication looks like. 

Nobody wants to go through a cycle of pain,lies, and betrayal and nobody should! 

 Love Demands Action

Love between two people has been and always will be a verb and as such is requires action. That means both parties need to make it crystal clear just how much they love one another, honestly if a person is constantly saying that they love you and no action is taking place (whether it's big or small) that is just not going to work out.

- A small gesture of love is not to much to ask
Love requires one to simply take action.